I hear wedding bells ringing...

It's the time of the year again when people starts planning for their weddings. I have to date 4 invites already. I remember how much red packets I've given out early this year that cause drought to my bank account. I really envy those friends who are getting married or have gotten HAPPILY married. I can get abnormally ecstatic when I hear my friends getting ready to be parents, trust me. I absolutely think I've got a great love for kids. Lewis said I am sure to be a good mother if I have a kid. Will I?

Talking about marriage and kids, I've been pondering about one issue. What do you think of shot-gun marriages? I know it's a very sensitive topic to talk about to some. But being the people person and brought up in a rather conservative family, I really value how much people around me nowadays sees it. No, no, I am not pregnant as yet. Coming back to the topic, in the current society we are in, I feel it's extremely norm to be pregnant before marriage or even being a single-parent. But for me, one thing I worry most is what my family will think and how they will react? Will they disown me or leave me to fend for myself? Will my relatives take me as a bad example to their kids? It'll be my deepest fear of breaking the news to them if I were to get pregnant one day.

Anyway, I think it's a rather personal and individual thing and everyone have their own ways of handling and explainations. So there's actually no rights or wrongs about shot-gun marriages right? If any of my friends were to be pregnant, I will definitely be congratulating them with my utmost sincere blessings. I assure you I'm not like some others who will give comments like unglam or I'll never do that if I were her. I can't hide the envious in me even and can't wait to be a mummy myself, how will I gossip bad about it.

I would very much love to have my own family with a house that only my partner and I and my kids live in. And definitely can't wait to be a good mummy. God! I seem very impatient to building up a family of my own! But cross my fingers and let nature takes it's course!

Sometimes I really wonder, why do trouble always come knocking on your door when you always try to mind your own business?

I received a phone call yesterday from a friend. The story outline is like this: Someone got herself pregnant and confided in others whom she shoudn't have confided. Know what? The word unglam was used by the person you have confided in. Doesn't she know she wasn't as popular and 'good friend' to those people like she thought she is? Well, good luck! Don't blame others from talking and sharing it when you decided to tell them about your little issue here. And don't leave a single trace on your MSN that can let people talk about it.

You have not shown even a slightest gratitude when you gained help in ways like getting into a job that have provided you things you could never have easily gotten. But yet, blaming others from showing authority when being asked about your movement (which is even not that case!), going around telling others how high your targets are and how much you are doing being new in the company. Don't compare! You get good results, I salute you. But mind you, what's the percentage of your clientele were given accounts?

So.. don't go around calling others bitch when you, yourself, are one. It doesn't mean others don't speak up and shoot it back at you, they don't know how much bad-mouthing you have done. The people you have hurt in this way just chose to be nonchalant about your misdoings.

Anyway, hate me all you want. I am just ranting here in my own blog. Like the saying goes...






Living with the family of your other half is becoming more of a nightmare to me now. I do not believe in such in the past but it's coming clear to me now after some experience of people around me and from myself. I used to laugh it loud when I watch, on screen, the strenous relationship between daughter and mother in-laws. I used to hear real-life experiences about such relationships from friends and I found them rather amusing.

But now, my views change tremendously after experiencing it on my own from my previous relationship (you notice it's singular) and the present one! In fact, I dare say I didn't face such problems before.

I don't used to mind staying in with them as long as I have my own private space. I don't say I dislike them to the core but some things they do really.... argh!... make you just wanna bang your head against the wall. They are nice at times but then again, you can get whopping mad that the slightest nitty gritty things they do like:

1. touches your things and leave traces of it when you are not around
2. re-arranges your stuff when you have done it the way you wanted
3. keeps your rubbish back at where they were placed before they were thrown away
4. says the nicest things in front of their sons and do the other
5. pretends that you are the daughter when their sons are in but a 180degree change when your partner is not in
6. pass sarcastic remarks when some thing you did isn't to their expectations
7. I believe a lot of you can continue with this list

I feel really uncomfortable to put on a mask in front of others. I don't like to portray I'm the goody nice sweet girl when I'm not. Then of course I know when to show respect in front of elders. But sometimes what you do may be correct and ideal in eyes of most people but your partner's mum decipher it otherwise. Seriously, you'll never ever know what's on their mind or what simply pleases them.

Is there really no way for the daughter-mother-in-laws relationship be cordial at least? I don't know but I am skeptical about it. I'm sure I'll want to get a place of my own when I get married.




How important is a Good Financial Health to you?

I wasn't taught the importance of monies, let alone savings since I first got contact with the currency. I can safely say I got whatever I want (nearly) since young. When I graduated and started working, bought whatever I like with my paycheck. When my credit card and other bills chalked up, I'll find ways to pay them.

I don't have a healthy financial portfolio as I have many commitments and I dare say I spend more than what I earn. It's really high time I should be doing something to salvage or improve the situation. Will there anyone out there who can help me when I really need them? How many times can I turn to anyone for help? I am always full of envious when people around me can afford to get whatever they want - luxury goods, a good holiday, a new car, etc. I know seriously I need to start this habit now before it's too late. I need to save for the rainy days... and to better other days ahead!

I made time to visit the bank to open a savings account weeks back. It was a tough decision and a big step for me to take. But this time, I am really firm on starting on the saving habit. I declined on all applications (ATM and debit cards, internet and phone banking) that could help in easy access to the monies. I know I am not disciplined enough to set a certain amount for this savings account, thus a fix deposit account, SAYE or similar accounts are not in my options list. Of course I've got a regular savings account - the fund's always flowing outwards. And this account will strictly have no outs.

I'm sure I can do it! Especially when Isaac's considered very disciplined in this case, he had helped me with my finances and gave me advises and cautions on when to be thrifty. I'm so glad I have him!




I'm feeling so annoyingly frustrated today. In fact, I've been feeling very demotivated recently when it comes to work. Apart from making triple extra effort to clean up my debtors list, I've got nothing else that interest me. I had to drag myself to work every single day and am always counting down to 5pm.

I began to keep to myself and only engage in small personal chats among a few colleagues who have been through the years with me. People come and go. The newbies are deciding which group to mingle around with. Believe me, the company I work for had dozens of clans like Worker's Party, PAP and the management is best described as the government. I would prefer to be just a normal, simple citizen. Mind you, being a citizen here is usually low-profiled and not in any limelight. But no matter how low I stooped, the different clans would usually keep a suspicious lookout.

Enough abt the clans. New joiners come in with better basic salary, hence whether or not they bring in sales or meet their targets to claim their incentives. A lot of them comes in with maybe good qualification but up in the brains, totally zero knowledge about this industry or totally not from sales background! End up, the old unwanted fellows (like me) don't have any increase in basic pay but the monthly targets and expectations get higher!

Prolly money shouldn't be the main issue here. People starts to compare sales quotas. Those who received hefty accounts talk louder and boast about how much sales they do and how stress and busy they are. Have they ever stopped and pondered how their accounts come along? They like to pinpoint and find unnecessary faults with others (like me) who didn't receive any accounts. My point is why can't they ever mind their own business, do their own job? If they are so busy as they claimed, how can they still find time to poke into other's businesses? Weird.

Anyway, I'm stuck in this industry for 6 years now. Working in a position I like (sales) in an industry I'm getting sick of and in company I'm beginning to detest!

With a fresh start, a better environment and of course, better pay package, I'm sure I can do a lot better than present! I have friends working on deskbound jobs and maybe not of high qualification, bring home the same amount I do. Minus the monthly target stress, they have plenty free time surfing the net, chat, read magazines, etc.

Going on, I strongly believe it's real time I start looking out for opportunity(ies) that can offer me better.




It's been a long time since I have a decent break to get away from the hustles of the city, to get away from work! Yes, the last time I went on a trip was to KL in June. It was okay but my feet hurt from all the walking, my body got really tired from all the visitings and shopping.

A decent holiday, I mean, is a place to somewhere I really relax and enjoy, a place where I can free my mind without phone calls or unnecessary disturbance. Such a place I would really love to go is some beach resort where I can soak myself under the sun, enjoy hours of massage and spa.... basically just do nothing!

I've been searching on the web and I came across an island off Krabi, Thailand - the Phi Phi Island. I've been planning for 2 months now.

Isn't this place beautiful and serene? You may say it's just pictures but Hilda's been there before and she highly recommend this haven.

But I simply love this room. It's a luxury deluxe villa. And real cheap! It's only S$100+ a night!

Enough of Bintan. I think I should concentrate and visit Phi Phi Island! Next.... to scuba diving!




I can't image how long I haven't sat down to blog. Blogging had been a favourite past-time to me. But seriously these days, I don't have much things to blog about. I've been spending lots of time at home, other than work, chasing after series and series of Korean dramas.

Oh! I know what I can write about already. Smoking Bans. I've visited a regular pub down at Boat Quay last Wednesday (after having disappeared from the scene for several months) and no smoking signs were all around the place! Smoking corners and bins were set up outside the pub. Needless to say, the air circulating in the pub was freshly sprayed with air-fresheners.

But still I think ciggarettes complements alcohol, like cigars complements wine. How can smokers enjoy drinking without smoking? And it really makes it troublesome for us to stop and take a break from our chats, drinks or whatever we are doing just to walk to the outside to take a fag. It's already bad enough to find limited smoking seats at cafes or coffee shops.

Imagine if you are a smoker and partying at places like MOS, Dragonfly or Zouk. With the heavy human traffic, you may seriously even kill the thought of taking a fag when such thought kicks in. (I wonder if these places are still packed with people.) Lucky for those who are smoke-free, the air is so much fresher to breathe in.

Sooner or later, I believe, smoking will be banned anywhere (indoors and outdoors). And the one and only place to satisfy such pleasure will be at home.

Yes, I am a ciggarette addict. Guess it's time for me to seriously consider to quit smoking. Now, I'm so glad I seldom patronise night spots.