Skeptiscm
Wednesday, July 18, 2007 10:13 PM
Living with the family of your other half is becoming more of a nightmare to me now. I do not believe in such in the past but it's coming clear to me now after some experience of people around me and from myself. I used to laugh it loud when I watch, on screen, the strenous relationship between daughter and mother in-laws. I used to hear real-life experiences about such relationships from friends and I found them rather amusing.
But now, my views change tremendously after experiencing it on my own from my previous relationship (you notice it's singular) and the present one! In fact, I dare say I didn't face such problems before.
I don't used to mind staying in with them as long as I have my own private space. I don't say I dislike them to the core but some things they do really.... argh!... make you just wanna bang your head against the wall. They are nice at times but then again, you can get whopping mad that the slightest nitty gritty things they do like:
1. touches your things and leave traces of it when you are not around
2. re-arranges your stuff when you have done it the way you wanted
3. keeps your rubbish back at where they were placed before they were thrown away
4. says the nicest things in front of their sons and do the other
5. pretends that you are the daughter when their sons are in but a 180degree change when your partner is not in
6. pass sarcastic remarks when some thing you did isn't to their expectations
7. I believe a lot of you can continue with this list
I feel really uncomfortable to put on a mask in front of others. I don't like to portray I'm the goody nice sweet girl when I'm not. Then of course I know when to show respect in front of elders. But sometimes what you do may be correct and ideal in eyes of most people but your partner's mum decipher it otherwise. Seriously, you'll never ever know what's on their mind or what simply pleases them.
Shania
